| When I first heard about Aubrey Lam's "12 Nights", it was being mentioned as being a must-see for those of us who have been dumped, right up there with "Swingers" and "Chungking Express". On November 3rd, 2002, at 5:32PM, I was dumped. No need to get too much into why I was dumped. But I can tell you this much: it really sucks being in a relationship and then all of the sudden being out of one. It's as if the rug has been pulled out from under you and you are stuck frozen at the exact moment in which you are about to hit the floor. You feel bad, like "Shit, I'm about to hit the floor." You have money, but no one to spend it on. You have your movies, and CD's, and meaningless materialistic goods, which have been collecting on the shelf, but they no longer matter. You have friends, but it's been months since you've talked to them, and the prospect of going back to them is like admitting defeat. And overall, you just feel shitty. Movies you watch just aren't the same without her. Food you eat tastes like shit when she's away. Everything is bland and flavorless; if life were a food it would be tofu. Only four things have been helping me through these shitty times. My friends, who, despite my protests, are doing their best to get me back on my feet. "Chungking Express", which I understand now better than I ever have. "Swingers", which allows me to laugh at what a loser I am. And finally, "12 Nights", which is basically my relationship with that girl on film, only with better looking people and a higher budget.
Cecilia Cheung is Jeannie, your typical female. Eason Chan is Alan, your typical male. "12 Nights" takes us through 12 nights of their relationship, from the first night, when the two meet, to the last, when they split. If only I had seen this movie before I had gotten into a relationship. Then I would have known how a trivial argument can lead to a girl accusing you of "growing tired of her." I would have known how much it hurts a girl to tell her you are busy, or that you don't like what she is wearing. Overall, I wish I had not taken her for granted. I know I'm not alone in our relationship failing, but I was an active participant. "12 Nights" is quite brilliant, and quite painful to watch at times. Jeannie loves Alan, but can't accept that, following that brief period at the beginning the relationship where everything is wonderful, Alan has to put her lower on his list of priorities. Alan loves Jeannie, but feels smothered and embarrassed by her. He wants to hang out with buddies from work. He needs his time at work, and his sleep. He needs space.
The film feels fresh in the beginning, as does the relationship. But as it progresses, things get more boring and stale, as does the relationship. It gets talkier, with Jeannie saying the same things over and over again, trying to get Alan to understand her, and where she's coming from. Aubrey Lam uses these techniques to show just how boring and painful times are when you are in a failing relationship. This technique also leads to one of the best scenes of the movie, where Jeannie delivers a never ending monologue to Alan. Just as we, the audience, start feeling bored, it cuts back to Alan, asleep.
If you haven't been in a relationship, or plan to ever be in another one, this is required viewing. This movie shows you just how they go wrong. Now that I'm starting to get into another relationship, I'm going to try and apply the knowledge that I have gained from this film into the relationship. I pray it works. I'm running out of shirts to iron! |
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